So, my daughter is 15 months old and has been breastfed from birth. She was introduced to solids bang on 6 months and has a healthy appetite, eating three meals and two snacks per day. When she was between 10 months and a year old, she had reduced her breastfeeds to about 3 per day. Once in the morning, once before her daytime nap and then bedtime. I still fed her in the night too – anywhere from one to three times.
However, probably when she was about 13 months old, so two months a go, she suddenly started breastfeeding more.
It started with an additional morning feed but has since escalated dramatically and she now feeds like a newborn some days!
If we are out it’s fine because she is easily distracted by the scenery out and about. She goes to my mum and dads once a week and spends the entire day there with no problems. She is happy to be out and about some days for hours on end and doesn’t bother about boob.
If we are home though, it’s an entirely different story. She is a proper boob monster and is literally asking for a feed every 20 or so minutes.
She doesn’t feed for long – it’s purely comfort and suckling most of the time. Just a quick snack. A quick check-in. But it’s every 5 fricking minutes!
There’s only so much I can do to keep her entertained and distracted at home – you see, I have to be in a position where she can’t feed and now that she’s older, she can just pull my top down whenever she wants if we are just playing at home.
I am not ready to wean her so I’m kind of stuck. I am aiming to breastfeed her until she is 2 years old. It’s just, I assumed the feeds would have stayed reduced at a morning and nap time feed during the day and a bedtime feed. Apparently that’s not the case.
I can’t refuse her because I generally run a “don’t offer/don’t refuse” policy when it comes to nursing her. She gets in a right state if I do refuse (on the odd occasion where I’ve lost patience and said no) so I’m basically forced to fight through this phase – even though it feels like the longest phase ever!
Is it just a phase?
It’s been several months so it can’t be teething. She has had phases during these months of teething, of course. No doubt there are several developmental phases she’s been through and is going through as well. But a few months seems excessive for a phase. If it is a phase… it’s a bloody long one!
Am I the only one?
I did some Googling (as you do!) and from what I can tell, it’s fairly common for babies to go through a phase where they suddenly feed like newborns around this age. Some say it lasts until 18 months – others say it stops about 16 months. I’m hoping it’s sooner rather than later, purely for my sanity.
I have set a deadline of Christmas (when she’ll be about 18 months old) to see if she’s still feeding as often. I’m not worried at all about her development, hunger or anything like that as she’s a great weight, eats solids well and has a very varied diet.
I’m just exhausted! Roll on Christmas – for more reasons than one!
Did your toddler go through this phase? Do you have a toddler that’s nursing constantly? Please tell me I’m not the only one!