So somewhere around the 2-3 week mark our daughter decided she didn’t like her moses basket and cried nonstop unless she was on my V-shaped breastfeeding pillow either on my lap or my partners lap.
We used to work in shifts trying not to fall asleep until we found the Babymoov Cosy dream (here’s my review of the awesome thing!). Ever since then, our baby girl has slept in our king size bed inbetween us.
Our daughter turns one in a few weeks and she’s currently fast asleep next to me as I write this in bed.
Today I saw a bed sharing post on the baby forum I’m on and it was very comforting to see how many ladies are still happily Cosleeping with their babies.
We love Co-sleeping and it’s quite sad that I feel the need to justify it whenever anyone asks how she sleeps and whether she’s in her own room etc.
I’m still not sure why everyone is so obsessed with how and where babys sleep but hey ho.
Co-sleeping or bed sharing isn’t advised by the NHS or by the Lullaby Trust but there have been studies that show that bed sharing can be just as safe as the recommended sleep guidelines when done correctly.
Our daughter grew out of the Babymoov cosydream when she learned to roll and since then has been just in her pj’s or sleeping bag inbetween us. I get kicked or headbutted quite regularly but I don’t care – I’d miss her desperately if she weren’t there.
I’m sure it’s fairly obvious to most that the reason baby’s want to sleep close to their parents is for reassurance. That reassurance works both ways. I love not having to have a baby monitor on, or be constantly checking on her. I can literally open my eye and see she’s OK and then be back to sleep. I wake at the slightest grumble from her and while some would say that’s a problem, for me it really isn’t. It’s reassuring to know that I’m here for her and that she is safe.
Of course, we do worry about her falling off the bed but for that reason we don’t leave her unattended unless she’s properly asleep and we’re just nipping to the loo.
It does mean we don’t have evenings to ourselves as we can’t leave her in bed alone – that’s literally the only downside.
After her first birthday we have agreed is when we will make the gradual transition to her sleeping in her cot. Mainly for us though, so we can have some time in the evenings to play xbox.
It’ll be a slow transition and will probably start by us putting her down for bed around 8-9pm in her cot and then her coming in with us when we come up at around 11pm ish. We’ll see how that goes but I’m in no rush.
I still cosleep because it’s easier for us. It’s easier to feed her back to sleep in the night, it’s easier to check on her, it’s easier in the morning when we all wake up and I don’t have to rush to get out of bed. It’s easier for a lot of reasons.
Parenting is bloody hard work so if I can make the sleep part easier, I’m bloody well going to!
Do you bedshare?